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2009A Girl’s Good Name
I have been deliberating lately about posting risqué photos of myself online. Why? Why not?
It is funny that some t-girls use the fact that they look unlike their true selves and have a made-up name as license to behave in a way that they truly might be ashamed of. Of course it has occurred to me that I could publish even pornographic pictures of myself and it would not affect my daily life or reputation.
But it would affect Janie’s.
And Janie is me.
After you’ve been a woman for a while, you realize that you’ve made friends and relationships with others based on who she is. She is alive, she has a reputation to protect quite apart from the one that’s attached to your birth certificate.
So, I decided to adopt this credo when publishing photos of me: If my dream came true and everyone in my life knew about Janie and accepted her enthusiastically, would I then be ashamed if they should find those photos of me/her?
For many of us, this is likely not simply or completely hypothetical. There may very well come a day when the jig is up and someone finds out about your alter-ego. On that day, it will be of infinite help that you are proud of the girl that you are. We can always blame others for being closed-minded when it comes to refusing to accept our “enhanced” gender, but we can only blame ourselves if they judge us on our poor decisions.
Besides, and far and away most importantly, the respect that counts most is our own self-respect. Belittling our female selves shows what we think of her and of ourselves. If you don’t respect the woman that you are, why bother being one at all? If you feel compelled to be a woman but hate her, that sounds like a subject for counseling if there ever was one…
Now, I should clarify that I am not saying that one should be prim and proper and prissy. (In fact, I still haven’t completely given up on the idea that I might post risqué photos of myself one day.) That is up to the individual and their own personal morals. I am only saying that whatever lifestyle you feel is appropriate, apply the same standard to your girl-self. Just my opinion.
trish1700
Hi Honey, I like this topic. In the beginning I posted pictures of me sucking guys and showing off my penis on Flickr. I guess it was new and exciting after all those years in the closet.
I soon started to notice that many t-gals had sites that were nothing but endless pictures of them sucking dicks, fucking or waste down shots of their penises. Not at all attractive. They were not dressed nice, seemed they were wearing female things just to help “get it up” so they could enjoy gay sex. I decided that was not me, so all the porn shots were trashed. Sure I have some I share with the men I was with, but other wise I try to look the best I can.
Trish
Cassie Play
I don’t know Janie. I’m new to crossdressing, and am fully aware that I’m not that attractive in many of the images I post. I do it for me. I’m not even sure what that means.
I have way more awful pics than good ones. I don’t mean naughty, I mean just plain unattractive images. At least this way no one can say I’m cherry picking photos. Even though I obviously do that too.
I’d like to think that maybe just one on my images is worthy of viewing without causing nausea? I’m sure I ain’t seein’ things accurately.
I enjoy your Blog because you post a lot and are interesting. I love your pics because you’re attractive. I don’t care whether you post “more nasty” stuff or not.
I’m not ashamed of what I’ve posted. Will I be in the future?
I’m working on doing better, but once you post something online it’s there forever. What I generally don’t do is post pics of me as a male, even though it could be possible to identify me without doing so…
I just don’t want to even go there…
You’re the best Janie : )
cdjanie
Cassie,
I have very much enjoyed reading your blog, and only wish you’d post more often there – and on your storytelling blog too… you have interesting things to say. You also have an iconic look that you could use to your advantage. We t-girls, vain as we may be, are always thinking only about our flaws, but we each have our own special beauty.
I’m interested to hear more on this point you make about just posting pictures for yourself. I mean, they’re out there, so you want an audience, don’t you? And if so, don’t you need to please them? And what exactly are you hoping to get out of it?