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2012How Does a Nudist Crossdress?
It is impossible to crossdress in a world where there is no dress, and no dressing. So, clearly, in a world with no clothes, a crossdresser (defined here as a man who dresses like a woman but maintains his male identity throughout) is simply a man.
But, let’s take it a bit further: what makes a naked t-girl female (especially where she has had no surgery or hormones)?
Differently posed, how do you go about being “trans” in a theoretical world where there are no clothes?
That is, in essence, the question asked of me by an insightful reader comment on a post from last summer entitled Cause or Effect? that questioned whether I was trans or not. His feeling was that my answer to that question – or my attempts to answer it – would provide insight on the subject.
And, I think he was right.
Clothes or not, on an external level, part of what sets women (generally, to varying degrees) apart from men is the care and effort that goes into maintaining a feminine appearance. Practically, this means things like adorning oneself with and managing longer hair, wearing perfume, jewelry, nail-polish, makeup, etc., removing bodily hair, buffing off calluses on feet and hands, caring for ones skin, taking care not to be too rough and tumble so as to bruise or scar oneself…
These external visual clues are more than just skin deep; they are manifestations of a genuine feminine way of being. But, let’s take the exercise further and go beyond vanity.
Internally, I have felt much more in tune with my body, with my movements and with sensuality. In my feminine role, I am more sensitive, more tentative, more nurturing, giving, yielding, quieter than as a man. I listen more carefully and seem to be aware of more of the background (emotions, motivations, context) of what is being said than simply the words themselves.
In a world without clothes, I believe that not only would I easily be able to feel feminine, but that I would be perceived as female by others (as indeed I have, at times, even while wearing men’s clothes). Femininity is perceived in posture and in ways of relating to others. There may even be an aura.
Of course, it would all stand in stark contrast to the obvious physical manifestation that is unobscured by fig leaf or fabric.
Am I trans? The tempting inference from the above is yes. But, there remains the question of whether my behaviors and even emotions (and perhaps choice of clothing?) are the product of nature or nurture.
Which leads to interesting thoughts about dropping gender labels entirely. What difference does it make whether I am man, woman, trans, both or neither? Is there a need to label this behavior or that emotion masculine or feminine? Wouldn’t things be better if we could just say “I just am.”
I am what I am; I like what I like; I do what I do. Why do we need more?
Ashley
While it is impossible to crossdress in a world where there are no clothes, it is still possible to be trans. So long as there are two genders with different socializations, there will be those that are trans.
Now can a person be more than male, female, or something in between? Certainly. There are several cultures, advanced and primitive, that recognize more than two genders. In ancient Israel there were 6 according to some scholars.
So is a feminine man trans? No, not at all, at least not necessarily. You can be feminine without being trans, just like you can be masculine, female and straight. And these conditions are more common than thought.
So whaere does this leave us. Again we have to look within and this is where the murkiness starts. Because we just don’t articulate to ourselves clearly. It takes time and very often an uninvolved person to help us articulate our feelings.
And Janie, since you’ve been “clocked” as female even while in “guy” mode, perhaps you’ve already transitioned and haven’t noticed. 🙂
Robert
Janie, once again your column is a combination of entertainment, education, titillation (hurray!) or leaves me thinking about things that aren’t obvious.
I would suggest that even in a nudist colony you and a select few of your correspondents would be stand out in the crowd standing at the bar. It would be more than the coiffured hair, manicured nails, tasteful jewelry or even the heels. It would be the poise and attitude that says, “You should, respectfully offer to buy this lady a drink.” It isn’t just the clothes that make the man or the woman but something else.
I think for you it might be the serenity that comes out of knowing “I am what I am; I like what I like; I do what I do. Why do we need more?” I envy your comfort in knowing just who you are. That is a rare thing in this world.
Finally I’m truly glad that you take the time to share your enjoyment and adventures with your readers.
cdjanie
Thanks, Robert. Very sweet.