Revelations in the Mirror

I must say that a tgirl sees some funny things in the mirror.

Oftentimes, that humor is but a manifestation of a little inner pain and confusion, but a little laughter is nice medicine.

One such incident just occurred as I changed clothes.

I spent the day with my hair tied back and in manly clothes doing the pinstripe thing, and when I got home, I just wanted to wear something more comfortable.

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She is Not Me – Janet Mock

I go through many ups and downs in trying to figure out my own personal truth, and I have chronicled some of that on this blog.

In the midst of one recent period of questioning whether the whole thing was/is a sham – thoughts like “C’mon, I’ve always been a guy, still am; why am I doing this to myself?” – I came across the touching and uplifting story of Janet Mock, the beautiful and articulate People Magazine editor who came out as trans in a wonderful interview with Marie Claire magazine.

She has written a book and posted a video of encouragement to transgender youth on youtube (which I have for you, natch!)

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Glam!

As part of my recent trip, I had my very first professional makeover, packaged together with my first ever pro photo session.

I slipped one of the photos into a recent post without any fanfare, but I really think this experience deserves its own special attention.

The end result of the makeover was more makeup than I usually wear, false eye-lashes which I rarely wear, and a much more “done” look than I tend to go for. 

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Spousal Guilt

From time to time, I am saddened by feelings of guilt over what I am putting my GF through.  I have been meaning to say a word or two about it in these pages for some time, and am finally impelled to do so after having read similar sentiments on the blog of my dear friend Petra.

So guilt-ridden am I, that it seems whenever GF gets upset with me, I take it to be a sign of her patience running thin with my whole charade.

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the language of discrimination

I’ve Heard That Somewhere Before

The victims are different but the language of discrimination stays the same.

California is considering providing protections that would allow crossdressers to wear whatever they want to work.

One news source quoted a commentator on this issue, as follows:

“It will inherently cause customers to be uncomfortable and not want to do business…  This is about employers having to deal with employees who dress in a way that employers know will cost them either in terms of customers, employer morale, or employee operational efficiency…  If you have a mother taking her son to a store for back-to-school shopping and the retail clerk is a man dressed like a woman, the mother is going to take her son and go to another store.”

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