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2012Men Being Men
A couple of days ago, I asked a question about the way crossdressers portray themselves photographically. Today, I will offer an opinion, which you may infer from the title.
I have made mention in the past of men’s inclination to represent themselves by their sexual organs, often to the exclusion of their faces. Oh, they take pictures of it from every conceivable angle and then share it with the world as if it were the most amazing thing.
If you’ve got something, show it off: my car is faster than yours; my drill is more powerful; my cellphone is newer, etc.
Crossdressing doesn’t seem to change this: my heels are higher than yours, look what I can fit in my… (I just can’t say it), and so on…
Men get right down to the nuts and bolts. As in, “I am crossdressing so, here’s my dress… here’s my ass… got it?”
The thing of it is that imposing male behavior into the expression of femininity is highly discordant. To me, it is not unlike imposing one’s fingernails onto the blackboard.
Being a man is great; I know this from personal experience. And, God love ‘em, boys will be boys! Men have a wonderful way of relating to each other, and bring their specifically masculine attitudes to the table when relating to women; I wouldn’t have it any other way – not as a woman, nor as a man.
But, in my view, portraying femininity requires a change of behavior. Crossdressers who continue to act as men while dressed as women obviously do not feel that way.
And so, quite opposite to my worry, expressed in day before yesterday’s post, the prevalence of this sort of behavior shouldn’t cause to me worry that I might be like them. Rather, given how much it bothers me, it should prove to me that I am quite different.
Not better, just different.
Ahhh… I feel much better now.
Imitations
EXACTLY!
shannon townes
Good! Glad you’re feeling better
Brandi
I happen to disagree: I see plenty of women who when they are feeling down post erotic pictures of themselves on Facebook and Twitter, in the hopes that men will make salacious comments.
It reaffirms their femininity for them when maybe they are not feeling so pretty at the moment, or are lonely.
So such behavior by CD’s could be the same sort of thing. Since their fem time is usually so fleeting, they may need even MORE of that kind of confirmation.
cdjanie
What you say makes good sense, Brandi, but let me ask you this: the erotic pics you speak of – are they closeups of their genitals, headless torsos, large insertions? Are there 20 pictures of each just to make sure every conceivable angle was covered? My sense is that there is much less inclination among women to post things like that (which I do not consider erotic at all) than there is for them to post nudes or even shamelessly sexual images that do not de-personalize themselves. Correct me if I am wrong.
And, dare I ask this question: do you feel that posting such photos will help these women feel better about themselves, or just worse?
gswi
My navel piercing is more blinky…
😉
cdjanie
I can’t compete; it is gorgeous. Your abs are better than mine too. xo
gswi
Really? I mean, I deliberately do NOT train them because I think a soft belly looks more femme than a six-pack….
Anyway, I’m pretty sure a little piercing would look VERY cute on you…never thought about that?
cdjanie
Yes, really. I guess I have to lay off the chocolate layer cake. 🙂
I have often thought about piercing my navel – and my ears too. For the time being the navel seems more likely as it is less obvious when I am in male mode. Maybe my next birthday…
Brandi
I guess I misunderstood you. In one part you were talking about that sort of thing, and then you said, “Crossdressing doesn’t seem to change this: my heels are higher than yours, look what I can fit in my… (I just can’t say it), and so on…”
I was talking about that kind of photos, not photos of genitals and the like.
That DEFINITELY is male behavior!